It's not me, it's you!

“I think we need some time apart…it’s not me, it’s you!”

I imagined uttering these words about a week or so ago but hesitated as my brand of honesty isn’t always well received. 

I’m told I’m too brash…or did she say crass?  Only she knows and obviously cares because I sure as hell didn’t…and you want to know why?  Because I’m one bold mutha— *shut yo mouth* Brutha!

I know at least one person reading this is saying, “Here HE goes…” but fret not, this won’t be a testimonial of telling it like it is. Rather, it will be a depiction of the dance dudes and dames daintily do around ‘da truf’! 

Say the damsel (or dude for you ladies) you’re dating disappoints, an asinine acquaintance annoys, or a change in career is considered, but in order to bring a conclusion to the union, clear communication is called for. 

And yet what do most people do?  They sugar coat sh*t so sensitive souls don’t feel slighted.  They accomplish this by telling the significant other, “I think we need some time apart…it’s not you, it’s me…”, or merely avoid phone calls from the asinine friend claiming “I’ve been really busy lately”, or give the impression to the employer a sabbatical is needed to deal with personal matters.  All in the name of what, being politically correct?!? 

You better, “tell the truth and shame the devil” or better still, “Say it with your chest!”

Ladies and gentlemen, this is meant to be short and sweet and get to the point…and what was the point?  I was just about to tell you until you interrupted me.

Excuse me?  Where were we? 

Ah yes…

There is nothing more cowardly than avoiding giving it to somebody straight, no chaser.  By no means am I suggesting a war of words where you attack someone with whom you’re wanting to draw a conclusion to the union; I’m merely recommending being honest enough to give the true reason for you leaving. 

Although often times a confrontation will ensue as the other party inevitably feels spurned, it will bring closure, rather than confusion, to the cessation of your relation; an eventual appreciation for the manner in which the termination was handled…honestly.    

“Honesty: The best of all the lost arts” – Mark Twain   

Cheers!

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